As Presidents Day approaches, we reflect on the legacy of George Washington, not only as a military and political leader but also as a model of character and discipline. One of the most remarkable glimpses into his early life is his Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation. Written during his teenage years, these 110 maxims served as a guide for conduct, helping him develop the social graces and moral principles that would shape his leadership style.

For Activities Directors, educators, and student leaders, Washington’s Rules of Civility offer valuable lessons that are just as relevant today as they were in the 18th century. In a world often marked by rapid communication and fleeting interactions, these principles remind us of the power of intentionality in our words and actions. By fostering respect and empathy in our school communities, we can inspire the next generation of leaders to prioritize character as much as achievement.

While the Rules of Civility originated in 17th-century France and were not Washington’s original work, his commitment to copying and internalizing them reflects a desire to grow in both personal and social responsibility. Many of these rules remain relevant for today’s students, especially those in leadership roles. Here are ten Rules of Civility that resonate with public school-aged children and provide timeless lessons for leadership classes:

1. “Speak not when you should hold your peace.”

Learning when to listen is a cornerstone of good leadership. In student councils and team meetings, pausing to hear others’ perspectives fosters collaboration and mutual respect.

2. “When in company, put not your hands to any part of the body not usually discovered.”

This rule emphasizes the importance of maintaining respectful and appropriate behavior in public settings, reminding students that self-awareness reflects respect for others.

3. “Every action done in company ought to be with some sign of respect to those that are present.”

Leaders set the tone for inclusivity. Students can apply this rule by ensuring that every member of their group feels valued and included in discussions.

4. “Show not yourself glad at the misfortune of another.”

Empathy is essential for building trust. Celebrating others’ failures can erode relationships, whereas offering support strengthens a team.

5. “Be not hasty to believe flying reports to the disparagement of any.”

In an era of social media, this rule reminds young leaders to avoid spreading rumors and to seek the truth before passing judgment.

6. “Let your conversation be without malice or envy.”

Words have power, and leaders must use them responsibly. Encouraging kindness in communication builds a positive school culture.

7. “Mock not nor jest at anything of importance.”

Understanding the gravity of certain topics is a key leadership skill. This rule helps students recognize when to be serious and when humor is appropriate.

8. “Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience.”

Integrity is the foundation of leadership. Students can learn to trust their moral compass and make decisions aligned with their values.

9. “Think before you speak.”

Pausing to consider the impact of their words helps students avoid misunderstandings and demonstrates maturity in leadership roles.

10. “In disputes, be not so desirous to overcome as not to give liberty to each one to deliver his opinion.”

Conflict resolution is an essential skill for student leaders. This rule encourages open dialogue and respect for differing viewpoints.

Applying the Rules in Leadership Classes

When we asked ChatGPT for some lessons, here’s what they susuggested. For educators, Washington’s Rules of Civility provide a meaningful way to teach students about leadership. Consider incorporating these activities:

• Reflection Journals: Have students pick a rule to reflect on each week and write about how they applied it in their daily interactions.
• Role-Playing Scenarios: Create situations where students must demonstrate the principles in real-life contexts, such as resolving conflicts or leading a group discussion.
• Peer Recognition: Encourage students to observe and recognize their peers when they see the Rules of Civility in action, fostering a culture of accountability and encouragement.
• Interactive Quiz: “Which Rule of Civility Are You?”:  Create an online quiz where students answer questions about their leadership style and are matched with one of the Rules of Civility. Add tips on how they can apply that rule in school leadership.
• Short Video Series:  Develop a series of short 1-2 minute videos where students or educators discuss each rule and how it applies to modern leadership. Post these on social media or the CADANews website.
• Slide Deck for Leadership Classes:  Design a PowerPoint or Google Slides presentation summarizing the article and including discussion prompts for leadership teachers. Offer this as a free downloadable resource.
• Social Media Graphics:  Create shareable images featuring each rule with hashtags like #LessonsInLeadership or #RulesOfCivility. These can be posted on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook to promote the article.
• Discussion Board or Online Activity:  Set up an online forum or Padlet where students can share how they’ve practiced a specific Rule of Civility during the week. This could include photos, written reflections, or shoutouts to peers.
• Infographic of the 10 Rules:  Create a visually appealing infographic that lists the 10 selected Rules of Civility alongside modern interpretations or examples relevant to students. Use icons, bright colors, and clean fonts to make it engaging.
• Portrait of Young George Washington:  Include an artistic depiction of a teenage George Washington writing the Rules of Civility. The artwork could be inspired by colonial aesthetics to highlight the historical context.
• Quote Highlight Posters:  Design posters featuring some of the rules with inspiring visuals. For example:
  • “Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience” over a glowing flame image.
  • “Think before you speak” paired with an image of a thoughtful student leader.
• Timeline of George Washington’s Life:  Include a short timeline that highlights key milestones in Washington’s life, showing how the Rules of Civility influenced his journey to leadership.
• Student Leadership in Action:  Showcase photos or illustrations of students practicing the Rules of Civility in real-world scenarios, such as teamwork activities or school council meetings.

Conclusion

As we honor George Washington this Presidents Day, let us also draw inspiration from his commitment to personal growth and ethical leadership. His Rules of Civility remind us that the foundation of great leadership begins with respect for others and ourselves. By introducing these principles in leadership classes, we can equip students with the tools to lead with character, compassion, and confidence.

NOTE:  Presidents’ Day was first established in 1885 to honor the February 22 birthday of our mythic first president and dollar bill cover model, George Washington. In fact, the holiday is still officially known by the federal government as Washington’s Birthday.